Sure you have to die of something, but it doesn't have to be emphysema, cancer or a heart attack. In my 25 years of being an emergency department doctor not one person suffering these fatal conditions has ever said "you have to die of something". Mostly they're short of breath, pale, sweaty, frightened and often want their mum.
Do you want to be rich or free, or both? Visualise what you want, where you will be and how it will feel and even taste and you have yet another tool in your well and good toolbox. However, a vision without action is just a hallucination. How much do you really want it? What will you sacrifice, endure or suffer to reach that vision?
As I write in my book Healthy Thinking, "It was the first light I had seen at the end of a tunnel that wasn't a train" when I discovered I could finally escape my unhealthy emotions. Ninety per cent of the thoughts that make you feel bad are not actually true, your emotional brain has hijacked your rational brain.
We have discovered a cure for much of what troubles individuals, families and society. Conflict, unhealthy attitudes, negative emotions and self-talk that undermines confidence and limits performance can be greatly helped with some Healthy Thinking.
What I have learned in 20 years as a doctor and 10 years teaching Healthy Thinking is that if you want to change behaviour, it helps to reward people. 2011 was good for me in that I lost 17 kilos in weight by rewarding myself in other ways than eating, and have partnered with Les Mills.
Before having too much fun manipulating and being innovative with our emotions, we first need to learn how they work, and how to control them. Understanding how we are wired up, the effect our emotions have on our performance and physiology and how they affect our behavior and relationships are part of the learning process.
Our Kiwi attitude to alcohol and drunkenness is quite frankly a national disgrace. I'm not moaning, it's a fact. I often hear bandied about that if we tighten our laws around alcohol especially around the Rugby World Cup we will be the laughing stock of the world as Auckland needs to be a global city.
Having just spent 4 days working as a doctor at Auckland City Hospital over Easter I am appreciating the importance of being chilled. In my 20 years working as a doctor I have spent 7 Easters that I can remember working in the Emergency Department of a number of hospitals and Emergency Clinics. In that 20 years I have seen unbelievable road carnage, families and lives destroyed and changed forever.
I have just returned from attending The Psychology of Illness invited conference on the beautiful Coromandel peninsula. It was a privilege to be surrounded by 60 of the world’s top health psychologists for 4 days and be a part of an amazing conference organized by Professor Keith Petrie.
"We have collected data over the years. We have data on at least 2000 people. I believe in the scientific approach. Everyone that came to my workshop had to do an online survey and we noticed that there were triggers that annoy people like dealing with traffic, small children, relationships at work. But what I started noticing was that there was common patterns of thinking about these triggers."