As I write in my book Healthy Thinking, "It was the first light I had seen at the end of a tunnel that wasn't a train" when I discovered I could finally escape my unhealthy emotions. Ninety per cent of the thoughts that make you feel bad are not actually true, your emotional brain has hijacked your rational brain.
Before having too much fun manipulating and being innovative with our emotions, we first need to learn how they work, and how to control them. Understanding how we are wired up, the effect our emotions have on our performance and physiology and how they affect our behavior and relationships are part of the learning process.
Having just spent 4 days working as a doctor at Auckland City Hospital over Easter I am appreciating the importance of being chilled. In my 20 years working as a doctor I have spent 7 Easters that I can remember working in the Emergency Department of a number of hospitals and Emergency Clinics. In that 20 years I have seen unbelievable road carnage, families and lives destroyed and changed forever.